Thanks for your comment and support, Robin

“repeatedly found the therapy unhelpful and in fact abusive.”

I find your honesty refreshing and not many people have enough tenacity to speak truth when others would rather pull the blanket up over their mouth and eyes.

Your sentence I quoted above somehow released turmoil pint up inside me. I have said many times therapy is abusive in regards to myself. I spent a year and a half in counseling which was very much mental abuse. The counselor, granted was a wonderful person with the best intentions, but was so mentally blocked by his personal views and “book” education that more damage than good was done.

I am happy that I was able to leave on good terms knowing that I was able to show the counselor he wasn’t opening his eyes fully.

Clyde…. I value your approach and always trying to find the kernel regardless of what others think……

It’s time for people to wake up, get out of bed and pull that blanket off their eyes, ears and mouths.

We all need to think think inside and outside of the box and if that doesn’t work we need to poke holes in the box to let the light stream in!

Nothing is unattainable or outside the realm of possibilities.

Hi Robin:

Thanks for this suggestion. I have done so. Thank you for your interest.

Clyde

Thank you for caring and being curious to inquire.

The details of my experience are in my memoir.

While I am grateful for the support I got from my family, there were times and ways that some of the support did not respect my own sense of self determination and agency. For example, in order to receive their support I had to attend very expensive therapy when I was in dire financial straights and having to bike twenty miles a day to work and back.

I would have rather spent the money on a car which would have vastly improved my work performance and repeatedly found the therapy unhelpful and in fact abusive. On that occasion and in many others, I found the support controlling and it did not result in optimal results.

That said, I am grateful that they supported my desire to work and that my Mom took my phone calls when I was afraid that I was being set up to be fired.

I also gleaned from the Daily News article that Ms. Danner struggled with her family in some similar ways.

I acknowledge it is very easy to play Monday morning quarterback; these situations are very difficult; but for me, what hurt most was when I was not believed when I was facing real obstacles and when my own agency to make practical decisions about my life was not respected.

It most have been hard for my school teaching family who I accused of being the head of the Irish Mob.

As a treatment provider, as a result, I am careful not to retaliate and reality check when I am falsely accused by message receivers. I am curious and ask for more information to find out kernels of truth so that I might improve my behavior

I hope this helps and I so appreciate your comment.

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